Things have changed drastically since I was a teenager. I barely got to date before heading off to University. My parents were not only old-fashioned but they were strict. I am not a parent but I have often wondered how I would raise a teenager in today's society. What could I tell them to protect them from the harsh realities they'll face? Could I make sure they trusted me to talk freely about anything as I did with my parents? Would I try to do as my parents did with us or would I lose them because what worked then wouldn't work now?

IF I WERE THE PARENT OF A TEEN:

1. I would teach and encourage sexual abstinence.

2. I would show graphic images of the damage caused by smoking, alcoholism, sexually transmitted diseases and the use of drugs.

3. I would keep my child involved in activities and the family would be supportive.

4. I would require volunteering over working part-time.

5. I would offer incentives for reading and writing assignments beyond what is required.

6. I would teach economics, discuss global trade and politics, in depth.

7. I would promote fluency in Spanish, German, Japanese and/or French and allow their participation in a Foreign Exchange program.

8. I would offer my friendship without relinquishing my role as parent.

9. I would spend more time with my child and less money on the latest trends in electronics or fashions.

10. I would monitor my child's Internet access and restrict access to all chat rooms and sites for adults.

It's a given they'd hear my expressed love for them often.